I didn’t miss posting about Thanksgiving in Australia simply because there is no Thanksgiving in Australia at least not in the month of November. Thanksgiving is one of the few U.S. holidays that is unique to Americans and oddly enough not grossly over commercialized. We’re too busy giving thanks I guess.
Australians have what some rumors call a National Day of Thanksgiving in the month of May. It sounds like it was something conjured up by a Christian network in the mid-2000s and maybe (or maybe not) recognized by the Australian government. But do Aussies actually celebrate this National Day of Thanksgiving? I can only wonder without some Aussie input.
It doesn’t bother me that other countries might create their own day of thanks. Maybe your thanks will override our thanks since I’m sure everyone is not thankful enough. I can already hear people saying out loud (mostly Americans probably), “I’m thankful, I am!” Be more thankful. If you’re healthy and you know it, clap your hands and be so very, very thankful.
No Thanks, Scary Thanks & Real Thanks
There is inner turmoil between my bethankful woman and my I’mpissedandscared woman and since this is not a Thanksgiving blog but only sounds like one, let me share my lists of No Thanks, Scary Thanks, and Real Thanks.
- I give no thanks, nothing, nada, zilch to the doctors who have been treating Hook for the past six months but do not see him as a person. Do I expect too much? Maybe. Except Hook represents for these doctors one of very few patients who is likely to become candy-free. He’s not just a statistic so stop treating him like a number!
- No thanks to– I have to say it: cancer. That disgusting blob of killjoy which attaches itself to healthy cells and feeds off organs like a parasite. With all the fat floating around in the universe, why couldn’t cancer attach itself to cellulite? We’d all sign up for it then.
- More no thanks to a healthcare system that didn’t allow for a nurse practitioner to help Hook and me navigate the healthcare process until …wait for it…six months after we’d been navigating the system on our own. In fact, I’ve been so upset about this for the past week that I couldn’t even post a blog. (Yes, I’m blaming healthcare for my lack of writing! Genius, no?) No thanks for the added layer of bureaucracy.
- A big fat no thanks to Hook’s oncologist who loves to answer a question with a question. When I asked, “Should we get a second opinion?” He answered, “Why do you feel you need a second opinion?” and I said, “Let me ask that another way. Would you recommend we get a second opinion?” His answer, “You could.” Thanks for nothing, but shhhh, don’t tell Hook I wrote this. He likes his fist-bumping oncologist.
- Finally, I am not at all thankful for mastering the art of living-in-limbo in a constant state of ‘wait and see.’ It sucks.
Okay. The no thanks is off my chest. That was my fear and frustration talking. Now let’s hear from my heart.
Scary thanks are those thanks I give because I know it could be worse (way worse). I know I’ve somehow skated by and I’m not quite sure why I get to be part of the lucky group. Scary thanks are those cosmic chuckles we all give from time to time when Good Blessings aren’t checking I.D.s at the door because not all of us would be admitted:
- I give thanks that my life’s circumstances aren’t worse or worse than yours whoever you are whose life is worse than mine.
- I give thanks that my husband is who he is, for better or for worse, in sickness and in health. If things get worse, please remind me that I wrote this.
- I give thanks for those nurses who do answer our questions, who give us frank advice when it’s not always in their best, political interest to do so. God bless all nurses always.
- For our families.
- For our wealth of friends.
- For our lack of debt because we like to live like monks.
- For my work-from-home business.
- For my stupid cat.
I’ll always be thankful that life in Australia was even a possibility, is still a possibility, and who knows maybe next May when some Australians celebrate a Day of Thanks, the Hooks will be celebrating with them. It’s the beginning of thanks, not the end of it. Sing it with me people!
Hook’s Surgery is Dec 6th I’ll probably post twice that day. I’ll either post or spontaneously combust and you can read about it on Twitter. 😦